Having just started Reading Thank You for Arguing, Jay Heinrichs proposes a very interesting
concept of arguing. At first, the discussion on rhetoric, while at the same
time using rhetoric to convey his message, allows the reader to get a feel of
the effectiveness of such a powerful tool. The author uses vivid and detailed
examples to prove his point. For example, Heinrichs states, “Gottman found that
couples who stayed married over those nine years argued about as much as those
who ended up in divorce. However, the successful couples went about their
arguments in a different way, and with a different purpose” (p. 16). The use of
real-life examples helps the reader to visualize how the techniques described
work and how they should be implemented. Starting with a love scenario, such as
that of married couples, transitions into the next main point: arguing by
seducing. These smooth transitions from one concept to the next allow Heinrichs
to discuss many topics in the same chapter without being too sharp in the
changes. Another very important piece of information that is presented is the
way in which people confuse arguing with fighting. In fighting one tries to win
over his opponent by all means, even if that means stirring up a sentiment of
revenge in the opponent. On the contrary, arguing is a much more clever and
effective way to get the other part to agree with a certain point or position.
One might have to let the opponent win a few discussions, but in the end, with
the adequate use of rhetoric, the winner will win in a convincing way without
raising anger in the loosing part.
It is also crucial to highlight the
way in which the author combines certain examples with some of his main ideas.
For example, when depicting the three main ways to persuade another individual,
he reflects, “…When George Foreman tries to sell you a grill, he makes an
argument: persuasion that tries to change your mood, your mind, or your
willingness to do something” (p. 17). He even uses daily-life examples to
illustrate his point. I found it impressive to observe the way in which the
author describes the satisfaction of winning an argument and how one can become
the master of persuasion only by correctly using the modes of rhetoric. Also, I
find is essential to reflect upon the fact that rhetoric is irrefutable. If the
counterpart cannot counter argue your point, then you are slowly beginning to
win the argument. The best way to convince someone is by appealing to his
emotions, using pathos, which is one of the most vulnerable points in a human
being. But, still, one thing is convincing a person, and a completely different
one is getting them to act like wanted. For that, you have to induce them into
the same desire you have of taking action.
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