The Importance of Family Roles

            In this section of the book, Toni Morrison describes some family relationships present among the characters. For example, it is said that Hagar and Milkman are cousins; however, Pilate says they are brothers. This is the starting point of a discussion in which they argue about the difference of a brother and a cousin. I believe that although a brother and a cousin are different at a literal level, they are very similar in real life. I completely agree with Pilate when she states, “I mean what’s the difference in the way you act toward ‘em? Don’t you have to act the same way to both?” (p. 44). Sometimes individuals even feel more attached to their cousins than to their own brothers. That all depends on personality and on each specific case. Nevertheless, we would have to look deeper into the family relationships in that case to determine whether Hagar and Milkman could be considered brothers. There are people who are offended when they are not given the appropriate title. For example, when they are called someone’s brother when they are really cousins. However, this cannot be stereotyped because each family is different and their relationships are distinct.

            “Milkman lowered his head. His father had explained nothing to him” (p. 55). I found this part very interesting since I could relate to it. Many times a parent uses a metaphor or an analogy to present his point and suggest a path to take. Some of the times, one does not understand why your father is advising you to do that, but in the end you know it is the right thing to do and you still do it. This is exactly what Milkman is experiencing with his father. Although he is upset with his father for contradicting him, he decides to follow his orders. It is important to always trust your family in every case.